Marriage of Roshida and Shah Ashraf Ali held in Birmingham

Muslim Marriage Traditions

In the welcome speech made by Khusru Khan, eldest brother of the Bride Dr Roshida Khan explained the definition of a wedding. He welcomed all the guests, bridegroom and the guests accompanying with the groom. Thereafter, Kabir Khan, second brother of the bride and also the chairman of Air Sylhet, addressed to the guests.

The marriage of Dr. Roshida Khan and Shah Ashraf Ali was solemnized on the 12th April 2009 at the Dorchester & Lakeside Suit, Ramada Hotel and Resor, Penns Lane, Walmley, Sutton Coldfield, West Midlands B76 1LH while the walima was held on the 19th April 2009 at the Assembly Rooms, Fenkle Street, Newcastle Upon Tyne.

During the ceremony, among other relatives of the bride, father of the bride Haji Md. Totab Khan and mother Mrs. Suphia Khatun,  eldest brother Khusru Khan, sister in law Mirza Fatema Khan, Thalha, Thamjeed and Madheeha, Kabir Khan Second Brother, second sister in law Rowshanara Chowdhury, Humaira and Hamza, elder sister Shaheda Khan, Brother-in-law Sheikh Alim Ahmed, Abaan and Ayan, youngest brother Emran Khan, younger sisters Mazeeda and Shazeda, cousin Sultan Khan, Halima, maternal grandmother Sunu Bibi,  Faruk Miah (mama), Hasana Begum  (mami) & family, Suruk Miah (mama), Sultana Begun     (Mami) &family, Suhel Miah (mama), Relly Khanom (mami) & family, Abdulla(mama), Resna Begum (mami) & family, Momotha Begum (Khala) & family, Maksuda Begum (Khala) & family,  Zilu Miah (mama) & family, Suphia Begum (dadi), Sufi & family, Mahboob Khan (uncle) & family, Khaliq Khan ( uncle) & family, Khaled Khan- (uncle) & family, Humayun Khan Suhel) (uncle) & family, Luhani Khan-(uncle) & family, Mirza Husnara & family, Rofiq Uddin & family, Kobir Uddin & family, Aliya Begum & family, Nabi & family, Mirza Husnara & family, Mirza Bushra & family, Jannathara Chowdhury & family, Ifkotiara Chowdhury & family, Mirza Mazeeda, Harun  Chowdhury, Mirza Siddika (poli) & family, Mohammed Nasim Chowdhury.

An eminent author and the journalist from Bangladesh Professor Omar Faruque and popular presenter and news reader in Channel S Dr. Zaki Rezawana Anwar presented the whole programme.

The marriage ceremony function was completely different and exceptional in the UK, said one participants in the function who is basically working a mainstream research organization in England. He said we usually have no such experience among the Bangladeshi community living in the UK to do a wedding function in a organized way which this event was done.  More than seven hundred guests from various places of the UK attended the function.

When the guests accompanying the bridegroom were waiting in front of the gate to enter the wedding venue, Khusru Khan, Kabir Khan, Mazeeda, Shazeda, Fatema, Rasna, Halima and Sultan Khan welcomed them to enter the wedding venue.

The bridal party entered the venue at 1: 30 pm. The guests accompanying the groom were Shah Mufassil Ali (Moklis Miah), father of the groom, Mrs. Meherunnessa Khanom Chowdhury, mother of the groom and also the elder brother Shah Zulfikar Ali Tipu, Second elder brother Shah Tofazzal Ali Dipu and his wife, first sister Shamsunnessa Chowdhury and her husband Mahmudul Hasan Chowdhury, second sister Mujibunnessa Knanom Nazu, third sister Zahurunnnessa Khanom, Mama: Wahiduzzaman Chowdhury, grandfather of the  groom Shah Ataur Rahman  and other relatives and friends of the bridegroom. They came from Newcastle Upon Tyne where actually they reside.

Hamd and Nat and joke story (Chutki) were delivering throughout the programme. A notable singer Alaur Rahman delivered many hamd, nat and other sons. Other singers were Kamil Rahman, Rahed Uddin, Abu Bakkar, Thalha, Thamjeed, Abaan and  Humaira. The guests enjoyed teh programme with a joy and gave a big hands to inspire the singers. The presenters Professor Omar Faruque and Dr. Zaki Riwana also delivered Chutki sometimes to give the guests pleasure.

The Bridegroom procession was conducted by Professor Omar Faruque while the bride procession was conducted by Dr. Zaki Rizwana Anowar.

The cake cutting ceremony was amazing. The bride and the bridegroom came together and Fatema, Rasna, Shaheda, Mazeeda and Shazeda helped cake cutting function make success.

In the conclusion speech Professor Omar Faruque said : ‘we are very delighted to have you all in this wedding function. Basically this is a historic event in the lives of a man and a woman. We are here to share the event with the bride and bridegroom. On this day we particularly pray for them so that they can lead a happy conjugal life. We also pray for their parents for whom they came to this world and they were grown up by their care. May Allah forgive them and make them happy in their life here and life hereafter.

If anything is done mistakenly don’t keep it in your mind. Forgive us and see. I particularly thank many including Khusru Khan, Kabri Khan, Khalamma, Khalu, Bhabi, my colleague popular news reader Dr. Zaki Rizwana and also many others . If I say their names the list will be very big. For their relentless effort the program has been a successful one.’

Dr. Zaki Rizwana and Khusru Khan separately thanked the guests.

Assistant High Commissioner in Birmingham Khondaker Mostan Hussain and his wife were present on the function. Among others, vice chairman of Air Sylhet Alhaj Sab Uddin, finance director Shalim Uddin, Investors Director Mohammad Ali Salik, Retail Director ASM Enam Ur Rahman, Director Suruk Miah, chairman of FB Supermarket Ltd Faruk Miah, community leader Faizur Rahman Choudhury mbe, Syed Surab Ali, Mafiz Khan, Abdul Malek Parvej, Birmingham Correspondent of Channel S HM Ashraf Ahmed, president of Khelafat Majslish UK Moulana Abdul Kader Saleh, Enamul Hasan Saber, Abdul Muttalib Choudhury, Mahbub Alam Chowdhury Makhon, Dr. Udoy Anwar, Promit Anwar, Pavani, community leader Torash Ullah, Mrs. Torash Ullah, Muzahid Khan and family.

Eminent community leader and the community relations director KM Abu Taher Choudhury could not attend the function as he was on a short visit in Vienna on the official purpose. Mustaf Jubaraj also colud not attend and gave apologies to the organizer.

Mufti Tajul Islam, Islamic scholar and head teacher of Darus Sunnah Academy in Aston conducted Nikah and Dua. Professor Omar Faruque proposed wedding to both the bride and the bridegroom as wakil of the both party.

The wedding ceremony (Bengali: bibaho/bie) follows the gaye holud ceremonies which was held on 11th April at the Sixways Business Centre at Lozells, Westmidlands.

The whole wedding function was basically planned, arranged and designed by the elder brother of the bride Khusru Khan.

What is wedding?

A wedding  is the ceremony in which two people are united in marriage. Wedding traditions and customs vary greatly between cultures, ethnic groups, religions, countries, and social classes. Most wedding ceremonies involve an exchange of wedding vows by the couple, presentation of a gift (offering, ring(s), symbolic item, flowers, money), and a public proclamation of marriage by an authority figure or leader. Special wedding garments are often worn, and the ceremony is followed by a wedding reception. Music, poetry, prayers or readings from Scripture or literature also may be incorporated in the ceremony

The wedding ceremony (Bengali: bibaho/bie) follows the gaye holud ceremonies. As the wedding ceremony is arranged by the bride’s family, much of the traditions revolve around embarrassing the groom. The groom, along with his friends and family, traditionally arrive later than the bride’s side. As they arrive, the younger members of the bride’s family barricade the entrance to the venue, demanding money from the groom in return for allowing him to enter. There is a bargaining between groom and the bride’s family members on the amount of money of the admission. There is typically much good-natured pushing and shoving involved. Another custom is for the bride’s younger siblings, friends, and cousins to conceal the groom’s shoes for money; to get them back the groom must usually pay off the children. Siblings, friends and cousins also play many practical jokes on the groom.

For a Muslim wedding, the bride and groom are seated separately, and a kazi (person authorized by the government to perform the wedding), accompanied by the parents and a witness (Bengali: wakil) from each side formally asks the bride for her consent to the union, and then the groom for his.

The actual formalizing of the wedding and the signing of paperwork is now done before the ceremony for convenience. Usually it is carried out on the morning of the wedding and the feast is at night.

At this time, for Muslim weddings, the amount of the dowry or mahr is verified, and if all is well, the formal papers are signed, and the couple are seated side by side on a dais. The bride’s veil (Bengali: orna/ghomṭa) is draped over both the bride and groom, and a mirror is placed in front of them. The groom is then supposed to say something romantic on what he sees in the mirror–notionally the first time he has laid eyes on his bride. A traditional answer is to say that he has seen the moon. The bride and groom then feed each other sweets, while the bride’s family members try to push the groom’s face into the food. All the guests then celebrate the union with a feast.

The reception, also known as the bou bhat (Bengali: lit. “bride feast”) or walima (Bengali:) among Muslims, is a party given by the groom‘s family in return for the wedding ceremony. It is generally a much more relaxed affair, with only the second-best wedding outfit being worn.

Unlike in the wedding ceremony, the bride and groom act as a couple at the reception; the bride and groom arrive together, receive and see off guests together, and dine together. After the party, the bride and groom go to the bride’s family house for two nights. On the second day, the groom’s family are invited to the bride’s house for a meal, and they leave with the bride and groom. This meal is called firani.